Can You Overcome Your Fears and Live Out Your Potential?
Today I will sharing my BIGGEST Fear which I discovered since I was 12 years old, and have since overcome it. Well, not overcome it totally but at least I have learnt there are ways to deal with and I have moved forward from there. I will be sharing two stories below.
Before I delve into my stories, here’s a list of the top 10 fears that are commonly faced by people, regardless of who you are, where you are from or what kind of background you have. Probably you may have one or some of them, and have been trying to overcome them. Read on.
List of Top 10 Fears
- Fear of Death
- Fear of Public Speaking
- Fear of Heights
- Fear of Failure
- Fear of Rejection
- Fear of Inadequacy
- Fear of Being Judged
- Fear of the dark
- Fear of flying
- Fear of creepy crawlies
My Biggest Fear – Heights
I first know I am afraid of heights when I was 12. I was camping and there was an activity when we had to climb up to a tree. Two pieces of rope were tied across two trees, the lower rope is about 2m off the ground and the other one about 1m apart. So what we need to do was step onto the lower rope, hang onto the upper one and walk across.
When I first step up onto the tree, I was shivering, not just a simple shudder, but shivering at full blast. I was really scared of heights even though it was just 2m off the ground. I could have easily jumped off and not hurt myself. I even used to jump down an entire fleet of staircase without batting an eyelid, so this shouldn’t be a problem, and yet there I was, all my friends were done with walking across, but whenever it was my turn, I was shivering and couldn’t get past 3 steps (yes I did take a few steps but could not complete the entire course, which was 1m across).
I remembered feeling ashamed and yet unable to stop the fear. Now towards the last day of the camp, I was thinking, it was my last chance to try this activity. It was now or never. So…guess what? I did make myself walk across the rope, still shivering but at the end of it, I was very proud of myself.
That incident was forever imprinted in my mind as I now knew what real fear was and I could overcome it.
Later, another incident happened which I know I still have this fear of heights but I was able to handle it better this time. I had some friends who came from overseas to visit, so to show my hospitality, I brought them on a cable-car ride and have a view of the beautiful surroundings. You can just imagine how high up a cable car is. Again I am faced with this fear of heights, but now I am in my 20s. On the way to the cable-car station, I was trying to boost up my courage again by encouraging myself, and thinking in my head that this is a great chance to conquer my fear, again.
and guess what….yes! I did it again, took the cable-car without fainting, and even made myself open my eyes and have a look at the wonderful view.
How Did I Overcome This Fear Of Heights?
Until now or maybe even towards the end of my life, I would always have this fear of heights, but now I am also assured with the knowledge that I have the strength to always convince myself to face fear and overcome it.
The Reverse Psychology that I use:
→ If others can do it so can I (we are physically equal)
→ I don’t want to “lose face” (lower your credibility in front of others) or lose out
→ If I can do this I can do anything else I am afraid of doing
That was advice coming from a 12-year old, and it has worked for me.
Why Conquering Your Fear Is Important?
To me, conquering even one inconsequential fear is greatly significant, as this means that I am developing my mind power. I am able to convince myself to do something which I am unwilling or unable to do. Just imagine that, if you can develop that kind of mind power, what can you apply it towards?
Mind Power = Willpower
You will always succeed in life if you have strong willpower. Let’s say I am trying to lose weight. Strong willpower means I would be able to resist eating the sweets, maybe not all the time, but if I resist it once, I can resist twice and then the third time. The amazing thing is,
“The more you EXERCISE the willpower,
the STRONGER you become
and the LESS EFFORT you take the next time”